How to Give Feedback That People Actually Want to Hear

How to say what needs to be said and drive lasting change.

Coach Clem Pickering and Jeremy share a feedback playbook—timing, wording, and See-Think-Feel-Intent—to build trust, raise performance, and make 1:1s and reviews actually work.

Giving effective feedback is one of the most valuable leadership skills you can develop. Get it wrong and you damage trust, confidence, and performance. Get it right and you accelerate growth, strengthen relationships, and build high-performing teams.

In this episode, leadership coach Clem Pickering joins Jeremy to share a practical framework for giving feedback that people actually want to hear. From his See, Think, Feel, Intent model to techniques for receiving feedback without becoming defensive, Clem explains how to turn difficult conversations into opportunities for coaching and development.

You’ll discover why annual performance reviews rarely work, how to choose the right moment to give feedback, how to help your highest performers continue to improve, and why focusing on behaviours—not personalities—is the key to lasting change.

Whether you’re a new manager, an experienced leader, or simply want to communicate more effectively at work, this episode is packed with practical advice you can use immediately.

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • Why most managers avoid giving feedback—and why that’s a mistake
  • The See, Think, Feel, Intent framework for high-impact feedback
  • How to give feedback without damaging trust or confidence
  • The ABC technique for receiving feedback professionally
  • Why annual performance reviews rarely drive improvement
  • How to coach and challenge your highest performers
  • The difference between criticising behaviour and attacking character

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The Manager's Feedback Playbook
The Manager's Feedback Playbook

Clem Pickering’s toolkit for giving and receiving feedback that works. Learn models, frameworks, and habits to build trust, improve performance, and lead with confidence.